Weekly Newsletter Message

What’s Your Destination?

Traveling through life reacting to needs, wants and situations as they arise is like following your GPS without entering a destination first.

If you don’t know where you want to be, you’ll never get there, no matter how fast you run. Or as someone once lamented “I spent my entire life climbing the ladder of success, only to realize, when I got to the top, that the ladder was leaning against the wrong wall”

The other day my kids went to one of these Escape rooms. (Groups of people pay money to be trapped in a room, slapped with a time limit, and challenged to find their way out by solving a series of puzzles as a team.) They were given one hour to complete their mission. When they finally made it out they shared how nothing could be taken for granted in the room. Even the most insignificant details contained a clue. Every item, everything they saw or heard, had the potential to bring them closer to fulfilling their mission.

What a great lesson in life. Each of us is sent into this world with a mission, and when our lives are imbued with a clear sense of this mission, even the most insignificant details become valuable opportunities.

But what is the destination? How does one determine his or her mission? For this we have Torah. Science tells you how things are. Religion tells you why they are. 

Now, as we begin the Torah cycle again and come away from a month of inspiring holidays, is the perfect opportunity to take the time to discover and internalize our mission.

Shabbat Shalom 

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

P.S.  Need help discovering your mission?  Consider coming to the first lesson of the new JLI course - How Success Thinks. The first lesson is titled DEFINING YOUR SUCCESS (AND NOT ANYBODY ELSE’S). For more information visit

A story with a lesson

A colleague shared the following with me and I felt it worthwhile sharing.

 “One night my toddler, Meir, woke  me at 4am. “I’m hungry, bread”

So I went down to the kitchen and made him some bread with margarine. I’m exhausted, it’s 4am, and I have a big day ahead of me. Meanwhile, Meir is sitting calmly, taking his time, bite by bite, as if I’m not there, it’s like I’m household staff.

Meir finished the first slice and announced  “more bread” , so I  made him another.
Then  I asked him if I could have a little piece.  My thought was to engage him, and to teach him to share.

He looked at me from the corner of his eye, he wasn’t happy… So I asked again… slowly, ever so slowly, he tore off a tiny little piece of the corner of the bread, and very softly pushed it in my direction.

I started to laugh. I almost woke up the whole house. C’mon kid… don’t be
so cheap… I gave you the whole thing… and if you want more you know all you
have to do is ask.. but no, he’s not giving so fast…”

What a great metaphor for our relationship with Hashem.

He gave us everything we have, life, health, wisdom to be successful,
opportunities, it’s all His!

But he also asks certain things of us. He asks us to celebrate one day a week with Him, to donate a portion of our earnings to charity, to talk to Him once in a while in prayer, and so on.

He doesn’t need it from us us, it’s all His anyway. He gave us the “bread.”  All He’s asking for is a little piece of what He gave us.

Hashem wants us to have every blessing imaginable:  health, happiness,
prosperity, you name it!

All Hashem really wants is to sit with us at the table and not be ignored.
He doesn’t want to feel like staff. He wants to engage us. He wants to be
involved in our lives.

What a great lesson for life.

Shabbat Shalom, 

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

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