at Chabad

At Chabad, the Bar Mitzvah celebrations are faithful to the beauty and authenticity of Jewish tradition.
We hope that the Bar Mitzvah “journey” brings your son to a deep recognition and appreciation of his
special role as a part of the Jewish nation.



We believe that no two children are the same and no two families are the same and
we therefore strive to personalize this most meaningful lifecycle event to make it most
meaningful, enjoyable and inspiring for your family.

Not just a ceremony, but about being Jewish

The Bar Mitzvah is much more then a ceremony, it is about who we are. Our focus is on
experiencing the joy and depth of being Jewish. The ceremony is only one part of that.
The training and preparation for the Bar Mitzvah reflects that as well. The child is taught
the meaning of what it means to be Jewish and is given time to ask and reflect on his
becoming a Bar Mitzvah with the rabbi's and teachers he studies with.

Enjoy the whole experience

It is not just about the destination but the journey should be meaningful and enjoyable as well.

Keep stress to a minimum

It is not a contest

Community is very important

Through our own community involvement we show our children the importance of community.
Making the Bar Mitzvah celebration a more communal event by inviting his Hebrew School classmates
adds an important dimension to the experience.

Parental involvement very important

Your child's Bar Mitzvah experience is greatly enhanced when the parents are involved
and participate in their child's Bar Mitzvah preparation.

Bar Mitzvah Shabbat Service schedule

9:30 am Service begins

10:00 am Time to indicate for guests to arrive

10:30 am Reading of the Torah Portion

11:15 am Speech

12:15 pm Parents speech

12:30 pm Kiddush (The Bar Mitzvah family should sponsor a Kiddush or a full luncheon)


Study Session: The Bar Mitzvah boy leads an in depth and participatory study session on a Jewish topic of his choice prior to services.

For other ceremony and service options please talk to the Rabbi.


q Reserve a date by completing the registration form

q Contact Rabbi to setup tutoring approximately nine months
prior to the Bar Mitzvah.

All tutoring takes place at Chabad, 303 Broadway

q Tutoring sessions last 15 - 30 minutes.

It is the parents' responsibility to ensure that the Bar Mitzvah boy reviews and prepares during his own time. If necessary a tutor can be arranged for an additional fee. ($50 - $75 per hour).

q Acquire a Kosher Tallit and Teffilin

q Bring Talit and Teffilin to all classes

q Attend the Bar Mitzvah Cub

q Closer to the Bar Mitzvah Rabbi will help the Bar Mitzvah boy prepare an outline for a speech. The editing of the speech is the responsibility of the Bar Mitzvah boy.

q Attend Shabbat morning services 6 times with your family and submit the Shabbat Synagogue Attendance sheet.

q The Bar Mitzvah boy chooses a ritual mitzvah in honor of his Bar mitzvah to follow for 1 week; e.g., Keep a level of kosher, put on Teffilin, make blessing before or after eating, say the Shema morning and evening, study Torah 15 minutes a day, observe the Sabbath or give charity, and fill out the Mitzvah report.

q Provide the office with a proof of the invitation before it is sent to print

q Three weeks before Bar Mitzvah arrange a meeting with
Rabbi to discuss honors/aliyot chair rentals and to set a rehearsal date. Please bring a list of people you’d like to honor and a completed Shabbat Synagogue attendance sheet.

q Rehearsal one to two weeks prior to Bar Mitzvah

q If you are catering a Kiddush or lunch/dinner arrange a meeting 3 months prior to discuss details with Hinda and Rabbi Benjy and caterer.


q Boy should be after 13th birthday (according to Hebrew birthday) on the day of his Bar Mitzvah celebration.

q No photography or video unless the service is on a weekday or Saturday night after dark.

q All Food and liquor served after the service must meet the kosher standards
of the shul. Please see the list of appropriate caterers for your reception.

We hope you find the following information helpful in your planning: