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Derek Black's Story

“You don’t drive away darkness with a stick” - “A little light dispels a lot of darkness.” – Chasidic sayings

In the opening of this weeks Torah portion, Abraham encounters three individuals whom he presumes to be idolaters. As far as he knows, they diametrically oppose everything he stands for, and yet, how does he react? He invites them into his tent for lunch. He doesn’t yell, attack or protest their existence or views.  He doesn’t chase away the darkness with sticks, instead he lights a candle.

Sounds like the story of Matthew Stevenson and Derek Black.

Have you ever heard of Derek Black? His story blew me away!

Derek Black was a leader of the White Nationalist movement. His father is Don Black, a former KKK grand wizard who founded and runs Stormfront, the biggest racial hate site. His mother, Chloe, was previously married to former KKK leader David Duke, who happens to be Derek’s Godfather.

Derek was the future of the White Nationalist movement until 2013, when he suddenly and inexplicably renounced his racism and anti-Semitism, disassociated from white nationalism and supremacism, and apologized for the damage he had done.

His apology letter to the Southern Poverty Law Center was widely reported on at the time, but it was anyone’s guess as to his motivation. This was a real pity, because if we knew what inspired Derek change of heart, perhaps we could use it as a template to change others who are so full of hate.

Well, a few weeks ago, an investigative reporter for the Washington Post decided to find out.

And it turns out that the catalyst for Derek’s change was an invitation to Shabbat dinner!

Here’s the story: when students at New College in Florida found out that they had a leader of the White Nationalist movement in their midst, they were appalled. There were protests, calls for his expulsion from the school, and verbal abuse. Lot’s of sticks swiping at the darkness.

At the time of his original announcement in 2013, Derek said,, “It’s important to point out that the so-called activists who never spoke to me personally but chose to denounce me publicly, intimidate my friends, or otherwise try to peer pressure [me] did not have a positive impact...not to say that I don’t think those who felt marginalized or uncomfortable with me did not have the right to express their negative emotions – but these expressions did not act as catalysts or contribute to my changing mindset.”

But one New College student did make an impact.

Abraham’s descendant, Matthew Stevenson, decided to light a candle and reached out to Derek, inviting him to Shabbat dinner. Derek, who was being shunned by everyone at New College, decided to accept the invitation and went back week after week. For the first time in his life he was faced with diversity. Lively, but warm and eye-opening debates ensued and gradually Derek broke free of the prison of his own mindset.

A little light dispels a lot of darkness

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

If You Think Trump is Bad

“One good deed is worth a thousand sighs” – Chasidic Saying

To those who supported Trump, congratulations. You can stop reading now. The rest of this email is not for you :)

However, for  those completely devastated by the election results. For those who are  depressed, unable to move on, fearful that we have entered a very dark chapter in our history, consider the following.

This week we read the Torah portion of Lech-Lecha, in which we are introduced to Abraham. 

Abraham lived during very dark times.  The “President” at the time was a fellow named Nimrod.

If you think Trump is bad, you’ve never met Nimrod.

He was about as depraved as one can be. “Might makes right” was his entire Weltanschauung.

Yet, Abraham didn’t mope, he didn’t walk around depressed, announcing that the world is coming to end.

Instead, he stood up and took action. He taught, inspired and led by example. He spread his values of morality, charity, equality, compassion and kindness.   

Abraham didn’t yell at the darkness, he lit a candle.  The darkness actually motivated him.  He saw it as a call to action.  

If you feel the situation is dire, then it is selfish to sit around and mope.  Get up and do something. This is your call to action.

Jews are galvanized by darkness, not terrified by it.

Like Abraham your ancestor, share your values.   Not your politics, but rather your values.  Your politics will convince no-one,  your values will inspire everyone.

What is at the core of your politics? What values drive your vote?  Equality? Respect for every human being? Freedom? Tolerance? A responsibility to help the underprivileged?  

Whatever it may be, share those values. Teach, inspire, and most importantly, lead by example. Treat everyone you encounter with full respect, including  complete strangers, your next-door neighbor who irks you,  and yes, even the Trump supporter.  Go out of your way to help the underprivileged, not only the homeless or minorities, but also the guy at work who may be lower on the totem pole.

Don’t yell at the darkness light a candle.

Abraham lit a candle and changed the world forever . You can do the same.

Shabbat Shalom 

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

P.S.  The following videos and articles may help put things in perspective, although I do not personally vouch for any of them. 

-       A 30 minute in depth approach - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9YV6PhzgjSs

-       A quick somewhat humorous approach -https://www.facebook.com/crazyrussiandad/videos/1588569608118897/

-       A

short article

that someone sent me

 

Little Things Matter

Do I truly matter? Do my actions really make any difference? Will the world really fall apart if I tell a little lie or commit some other “sin”? 

 
Mr. Anthony Weiner probably didn’t think so when he sent some text messages to a fifteen year old.
 
Yet, his actions are now having a major impact on the elections and may actually determine the next President of the most the powerful country on earth!
 
For the better or worse our actions do make a difference. Every word, thought, and action can have a tremendous impact. 
 
As Maimonides writes, “a Jew must view himself and the entire world as equally balanced between good and evil, one good deed can tip the scale to the good and bring healing to the entire world….”
 
Often we don’t get to see the consequences of our actions, but rest assured that every action creates a ripple effect.
 
 

As a matter of fact, every major event in history can be traced back to a single action performed by a single individual. Like Mohammed Bouazizi who set himself on fire instigating the Arab Spring or Eddie Jacobson, the haberdasher, who convinced President Truman to meet with Chaim Weizmann inspiring America’s recognition of the State of Israel.

 
Remember, G-d does big things with our small deeds. Moses had a stick, David a sling and Samson a jawbone.
 
Had Mr. Weiner been aware of the far-reaching ramifications of his actions he may very well have found the moral courage to refrain from indulging in his vices.
 
The awareness of the far-reaching consequences of every one of our actions can serve as a tremendous source of inspiration and motivation.
 
Shabbat Shalom
Rabbi Benjy Silverman

What’s Your Destination?

Traveling through life reacting to needs, wants and situations as they arise is like following your GPS without entering a destination first.

If you don’t know where you want to be, you’ll never get there, no matter how fast you run. Or as someone once lamented “I spent my entire life climbing the ladder of success, only to realize, when I got to the top, that the ladder was leaning against the wrong wall”

The other day my kids went to one of these Escape rooms. (Groups of people pay money to be trapped in a room, slapped with a time limit, and challenged to find their way out by solving a series of puzzles as a team.) They were given one hour to complete their mission. When they finally made it out they shared how nothing could be taken for granted in the room. Even the most insignificant details contained a clue. Every item, everything they saw or heard, had the potential to bring them closer to fulfilling their mission.

What a great lesson in life. Each of us is sent into this world with a mission, and when our lives are imbued with a clear sense of this mission, even the most insignificant details become valuable opportunities.

But what is the destination? How does one determine his or her mission? For this we have Torah. Science tells you how things are. Religion tells you why they are. 

Now, as we begin the Torah cycle again and come away from a month of inspiring holidays, is the perfect opportunity to take the time to discover and internalize our mission.

Shabbat Shalom 

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

P.S.  Need help discovering your mission?  Consider coming to the first lesson of the new JLI course - How Success Thinks. The first lesson is titled DEFINING YOUR SUCCESS (AND NOT ANYBODY ELSE’S). For more information visit www.chabadrt.org/3409071

A story with a lesson

A colleague shared the following with me and I felt it worthwhile sharing.

 “One night my toddler, Meir, woke  me at 4am. “I’m hungry, bread”

So I went down to the kitchen and made him some bread with margarine. I’m exhausted, it’s 4am, and I have a big day ahead of me. Meanwhile, Meir is sitting calmly, taking his time, bite by bite, as if I’m not there, it’s like I’m household staff.

Meir finished the first slice and announced  “more bread” , so I  made him another.
Then  I asked him if I could have a little piece.  My thought was to engage him, and to teach him to share.

He looked at me from the corner of his eye, he wasn’t happy… So I asked again… slowly, ever so slowly, he tore off a tiny little piece of the corner of the bread, and very softly pushed it in my direction.

I started to laugh. I almost woke up the whole house. C’mon kid… don’t be
so cheap… I gave you the whole thing… and if you want more you know all you
have to do is ask.. but no, he’s not giving so fast…”

What a great metaphor for our relationship with Hashem.

He gave us everything we have, life, health, wisdom to be successful,
opportunities, it’s all His!

But he also asks certain things of us. He asks us to celebrate one day a week with Him, to donate a portion of our earnings to charity, to talk to Him once in a while in prayer, and so on.

He doesn’t need it from us us, it’s all His anyway. He gave us the “bread.”  All He’s asking for is a little piece of what He gave us.

Hashem wants us to have every blessing imaginable:  health, happiness,
prosperity, you name it!

All Hashem really wants is to sit with us at the table and not be ignored.
He doesn’t want to feel like staff. He wants to engage us. He wants to be
involved in our lives.

What a great lesson for life.

Shabbat Shalom, 

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

What Netanyahu Did Not Say

Yesterday, at the UN general assembly, Prime Minister Netanyahu emphasized Israel's great achievements in agriculture, health, water, cyber and in the fusion of big data, connectivity and artificial intelligence. For example he shared how “Israel leads the world in recycling wastewater. We recycle about 90% of our wastewater. ……. the next country on the list only recycles about 20% of its wastewater, Israel is a global water power”

What he did not address was the secret to Israel’s success. How has a a country of 8 million, only 60 years old, surrounded by enemies, in a constant state of war since its founding, with no natural resources become so successful in so many areas?

To understand the success or failure of any society you need to understand its unique culture.

When it comes to Israel though, there’s a challenge. Israel is the ultimate melting pot.  It  has absorbed more than 350 times its population in the last 60 years, by far more than any other nation on earth.

The only thing that all Israelis have in common is their Jewish heritage.  

The cuisine is different, the customs are different, the linguistics and celebrations are all different. But the Torah is the same.

There’s a whole Torah culture that includes a way of looking at life, a system of beliefs and a set of values that is shared by all Jewish Israelis, whether they be Ashkenazi, Sephardi, religious or secular.

Even the most secular Jew in Israel  is a product of generations of Jews that lived and breathed Judaism.  While he may not believe in, or practice Torah, he shares this culture. It’s in his DNA. Whether aware of it or not certain “Torah values” have been transmitted to him from previous generations.  

Judaism is not only a spiritual lifestyle, teaching you the best spiritual path. It is for real life. Real success. Success in relationships, happiness, well-being and even economic success.

The success we are witnessing in Israel today is the sum total, the product of 3000 years of Judaism and  Torah “culture”.

The Talmud declares “As my ancestors planted for me so do I plant for my children”

Israel, and by extension the entire world  today,  is reaping the benefits  of centuries of Torah life and Torah values. But the question each of ask must ask is, are we planting for our children? Will our children benefit from the culture of Torah as we are benefiting from our ancestors? The Torah’s culture cannot continue generation after generation without any conscious effort, without us ever looking into the Torah.

The Modern State of Israel unequivocally shows that when you apply Torah and Jewish values to the world in the 21st century, the result is a stunning success. Why not try it at home?   

Every time you add a little Judaism to your life or your children's, you have given yourself or  them critical tools to succeed in the real world.  

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

P.S. If you would like to find out more about this unique “Torah culture” that inspires such success consider joining our fall course “How Success Thinks”.  The course provides uniquely Jewish ways of thinking to help you develop a growth mindset, identify and cultivate your signature strengths, deal with your weaknesses, and overcome the obstacles to your success. Find out more here.

- Join us for a Farbrengen followed by Selichot, tomorrow night at 11pm

Longevity

Mazal Tov. Yisrael Kristal turned 113 years old yesterday.  September 15th marked 100 years since his Bar Mitzvah!

Earlier this year, Guinness world records officially recognized Yisrael Kristal, a holocaust survivor who barely survived Auschwitz, as the oldest man alive.

But Yisrael doesn't make a big deal about his age. He told Guinness “There have been smarter, stronger and better looking men then me who are no longer alive. My longevity is a gift from G-d”. He takes no credit for living so long.  But what he does take great pride in, and made a big deal out of in his Guinness interview,  is the fact that he has worn Tefillin every day (except Shabat and holidays) for 100 years!

His interview brings to mind the saying “Immortality lies not in how long you live, but in how you live.”  

More important than how many years you live, is how you fill those years.

We invest so much time and energy into our health. We exercise, eat healthy and go to doctors hoping to extend our years, but are we investing as much into the content of those years?

The first Chabad Rebbe, Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi, once wished to bless the renowned Chassid Reb Yekusiel Liepler with wealth. Reb Yekusiel  declined the offer, saying that he was afraid it would distract him from more spiritual pursuits. The Rebbe then offered to bless him  with long life. Yet Reb Yekusiel demurred, and replied, “but not peasant years. Not years of those ‘who have eyes, but do not see; who have ears, but do not hear’ — who neither see nor hear G-dliness.”


As far as he was concerned, the only life worth living was one filled with goodness. It matters not so much how many years one lives, but that one should truly be alive during those years.

Shabbat Shalom 

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

Responding with Greatness

Optimism doesn't mean that everything will be great.  That’s naivety. Optimism means seeing what’s great within everything.

This week's Torah portion begins, “See, I have placed before you today the blessing and the curse.” This can also be read as: See what I have placed before you today either as a blessing or a curse. We choose how to see our circumstances.

In his book, A Perfect God Created An Imperfect World Perfectly, Rabbi Dr. Elimelech Goldberg, founder of the organization Kids Kicking Cancer,  shares the story of Bernard Johnson.

Bernard had been with Kids Kicking Cancer for almost a year and a half. His mom had abandoned the family when he was very young. Bernard’s dad died a little after his eighth birthday. When he was nine their uncle passed away. That was the same year Bernard was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor that had already robbed him of the ability to walk. It was slowly stealing the rest of his body.

While he was still struggling with the cancer, at an event for Kids Kicking Cancer, Bernard shared a few words. Here’s what he had to say:

"And I want to teach you what we do in Kids Kicking Cancer,’ Bernard proclaimed in a loud voice. ‘You can breathe in the light which is your essence and blow out the darkness. You can do this no matter what is going on in your life.’

Optimism does not mean that everything is going to be great. It means that we can respond to everything with greatness.

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

 

Going for Gold in Rio

Michael Phelps’ gold medals and purple circles, Simone Biles defying gravity and Aly Raisman’s anxious parents are highlights of the Rio Olympics that we won’t soon forget. But the moment that will be remembered forever, more than any other, is when Abbey D'Agostino stopped in the middle of her race to help another runner who had fallen. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5-fQ2Qda5U). Headlines all over the world declared Abbey as the true Olympic champion.  

 Abbey is the real gold winner of the Rio Olympics.

What a great reminder:  You don’t have to make it to the finish line first to win the gold medal.  You can “win the gold” in the middle of the race too.

Actually, in real life, as many who have lived the rat race can attest to, there is no gold at the finish line. In life, the only place to win the gold is in the middle of the race. If you don’t find gold during the race, you wont find it at the end either; because if you are not happy with what you have, you will never be happy with what you get.

Abbey reminded us that the gold is right in front of our eyes, not at some elusive finish line.

Shabbat Shalom 

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

How McDonald's Taught Me to Smile

A young girl once wrote to the Lubavitcher Rebbe in anticipation of a scheduled meeting between her father and the Rebbe. Her father, a community activist and leader, had always dreamt of retiring to Israel.

“Dear Rebbe, as you may know my father has always wanted to live in Israel. Please make him happy by giving him your consent and blessings to make Aliyah”

The Rebbe acknowledged the girl’s feelings but also gently reminded her of the importance of her father’s work in his community. “I have no doubt that he will feel in his element only in a place where he can fully utilize his knowledge and qualities for the benefit of others. Based on this you will surely realize that he will be truly happy if he continues in his present situation”

True happiness comes from fulfilling your purpose not your desires. Serving others, rather than oneself, is key to happiness.

This can be particularly challenging in today’s culture that places personal fulfillment and feelings above all else. (Is it any surprise that we are the most depressed generation of all time?)

As a young woman recently shared, “College taught me that my feelings are more important than anything. Working in McDonald’s taught me that serving others comes first”.

“At McDonald's, what mattered was not how I felt but how the customers felt…. My job was to make others happy!"
Perhaps this is the secret behind that McDonald's smile. mcdonalds.jpg

Shabbat Shalom 

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

 

 

 

 

DNC, RNC and a Lesson for Marriage

On the first day of creation, the Torah states “And God saw the light that it was good.”

On the second day the Torah does not say anything about creation being good.  Only on the third day does the Torah once again say “and God saw that it was good” and it actually says it twice.

Every detail in the Torah is precise, so what’s the significance of this discrepancy? What’s wrong with the second day,  and why is the third day, with it’s double portion of good, even better than the first.  

Day one represents oneness and unity, which of course is good.

The second day represents conflict. Once there is a second there is no longer oneness or unity. Therefore the Torah doesn't say it was good, for conflict is not good.

The third day represents peace. Peace between the first and second. Therefore the Torah says “it was good” twice, even more than the first day, because PEACE IS GREATER THAN UNITY.

Unity is easy; there’s no challenge (since you are the only one),  but it’s also one dimensional. Peace, on the other hand, can only exist when there’s challenge or the possibility of conflict, but it contains a depth and breadth not found in unity.

The advantage of peace over unity is similar to the advantage of  a multi-colored painting over a single-colored one. The contrast of the colors lends to the beauty of the artwork.  

This truth, that peace is greater than unity, applies to many areas in life, in our relationships as well as our politics.

This week I took the time to actually  read both the Republican and Democratic party platforms.  While there were definitely some items that seem irreconcilable, overall I was amazed at how much they actually complement one another.  They fit together beautifully!   

Peace is greater than Unity.  Placed side by side, working together, the two platforms can create a healthy and most wonderful society.  On their own they each fall short.

When we dig in our heels, point fingers, dismiss, or paint the other as evil, we are stuck in the division and conflict represented by the second day of creation, regarding which “good” is not even mentioned once. However, when we see the other side as an opportunity to reach beyond ourselves and our finite mindset  to create something even greater than what we could on our own, and  when we are open to listening to the objectives and goals of the other side, we can create the true beauty and depth represented by the third day of creation.

As always my goal is not to talk “politics” , but rather to use current events, topics that people are thinking and talking about, as a springboard in order to learn a lesson and better ourselves as individuals.  Peace is greater than unity not only in politics but also in our relationships -  Our differences are an opportunity not a threat.  This is especially true in a marriage. It is the differences and disagreements of spouses, not the similarities,  that carry the potential for the true beauty and depth of marriage.  

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

Has Democracy Run Its Course?

Have we given too much power to the people?

With Brexit and the rise of Donald Trump, some are questioning whether the masses should be entrusted with so much power. (Please don’t take this as an endorsement, or the opposite, of any candidate or position;  I’m merely sharing a sentiment that some are expressing)

Perhaps David Cameron gave too much power to the people by even calling for the referendum?

Are we witnessing mob rule rather than a moral and sensible form of government?

A couple of weeks ago we read the Torah portion about the spies who were sent to Israel and later led a rebellion against Moses and G-d.

The story opens with G-d’s instruction to Moses “Send for you spies” The commentaries explain the words “for you” to mean; send spies if you, the people, want.   This was a watershed moment in history.  Up until this point G-d called the shots and the people simply followed. All of a sudden G-d says, let the people decide what to do, I will no longer guide every step and make every decision. G-d handed over power to the people.

This was a high-risk move, but then again so was the very creation of our world. G-d could have created a perfect world, He could have done all the work for us, but instead G-d entrusted us with the task of bettering the world. Of course, handing over so much power to the masses comes with great risk. But G-d is willing to take the risk because, appreciating our inherent goodness,  he trusts that while we might make mistakes along the way, eventually we will get it right.

Democracy is also high-risk. It empowers the people. We may make mistakes, but due to our inherent (often concealed) goodness,  we will eventually learn from our mistakes and rebuild even stronger than before.

There’s an important lesson to be learnt from all this.

G-d has faith in you. (More than you have faith in G-d, G-d has faith in you)

With free choice, G-d has entrusted you with tremendous power.  And with this power you can cause great damage, you can make some really big mistakes. But G-d allows for this because, aware of your inherent goodness and greatness, He knows that you can and will rebuild even stronger. Good luck!

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Benjy Silverman




Resistance

Earlier this week, Secretary of State John Kerry said that the horrific airport attack in Istanbul was a sign of ISIS desperation. While he was blasted by many for dangerously denying reality, I think there is a kernel of truth and a lesson to be learned from his statement (even if it doesn’t apply in this specific case with ISIS).

Encountering resistance is a sign of progress.

A doctor recently shared the following with me. Molluscum contagiosum is a viral skin infection, very common among children, that causes pearl-like bumps on the skin. The doctor pointed out that you know the virus is leaving the body when it begins to look really bad. It looks the worst when it’s on it’s way out.

Hearing this reaffirmed something I had studied in the book of Tanya: Negativity puts up its greatest fight when it’s about to lose the battle. The Alter Rebbe gives the example of someone immersed in prayer who is distracted by inappropriate thoughts. Rather than become discouraged by these distractions, he should see them as a sign that his prayers are valuable. You must be doing something right if the evil inclination is working so hard to throw you off track.

We all face some form of resistance, whether internal or external, to what we are trying to accomplish.  Rather than despair, see the resistance as a sign of progress. Resistance shouldn’t dishearten you it should inspire and motivate you.  The more the resistance the more important the endeavor must be.

I recently came across the following on Chabad.org “when human beings decided they could fly, two paths lay before them: To build vehicles lighter than air, or to use the air’s resistance to their advantage.

In the end, the path of resistance proved more successful.

It turns out that when you wish to fly above, resistance is to your advantage.”

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

 

 

Fixing Society's Ills

I received the following response to last weeks Shabbos email:

“Dear Rabbi Benjy.

I am not a member of Chabad but I receive your weekly newsletters and find them thoughtful and inspiring.  I was therefore surprised at your comment that you declined to comment on gun control for fear of upsetting someone.  It seems to me that after the horror of Orlando a spiritual leader should take that risk.”

Very true, and I appreciate the feedback.

However, while a spiritual leader should speak the truth, whether it is popular or not, the question is, what should a spiritual leader be speaking about to begin with. What is his or her role? Is the role of a spiritual leader to address symptoms or the root cause?

Allow me to explain using health as a metaphor.

In medicine it is important to treat the cause and not just address the symptoms with drugs.

While Tylenol may be helpful for a headache, if the headache is chronic and accompanied by other symptoms, the root cause must be addressed, not just the symptoms.

Society works the same way. A variety of “ailments” in a society is an indication of a deeper and more systemic problem, which must be addressed.

Drug violence, mass shootings, corporate corruption, terrorism, depression, a broken justice system, global warming, racism, sexism and broken families are just some of the challenges we face today. However, these are not isolated problems but rather symptoms of a deeper problem, a systemic problem that requires a systemic solution.

Judaism believes that all of society’s problems are actually connected. They are all symptoms of the same “disease”. 

Just as in medicine, it is crucial to address the root cause in addition to treating the symptoms.

The way to address the root cause is by inspiring more people to appreciate that every life is created in the Divine image, which is the source of the uncompromising sanctity of human life. As deliberate creations of G-d, we have responsibilities not only rights. We have a responsibility to give, to share and to care, not just the right to take and ignore. A society that understands this is a society with less killing, less greed and corruption, more happiness and more wholesome families.

We each have our unique role. While politicians deal primarily with symptoms, the role of a spiritual leader is to deal primarily with root causes. To uplift, inspire and remind humanity of the infinite value of life and our moral responsibilities to our creator.

As a result, whenever I write about current or political events, my goal is only to draw a moral lesson that we can apply to our lives.

The moral lesson for today is to focus on root causes not just symptoms. Posting on Facebook, signing petitions and calling your congressman are all important, but ultimately they only address the symptoms.

Appreciate the Divine spark within every human being, treat everyone with respect and concern, give more than you take, and consider what you are needed for more than what you need. This will inspire a ripple effect all around you. We are presented with countless encounters each day to uplift and inspire, and these encounters can be the catalyst to a better world.

 Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

The Right to Bear Arms

Gun control is once again front and center in the national conversation after the horrific attack in Orlando earlier this week.

I’m not going to comment on gun control because no matter what I say someone will be upset with me :) Rather, I’d like to focus on the “right to bear arms” and all our other rights for that matter.

We often confuse rights with being entitled to. But the Bill of Rights is not a Bill of Entitlements. It is actually more about the limitations and responsibilities of the government then it is about our rights.

Take for example the right to the pursuit of happiness. This does not mean that I am entitled to happiness; it means that the government cannot intrude on my ability to pursue happiness. I am not entitled to happiness. No one owes it to me.

The entitled attitude produces a self-centered society. The world owes me. My mindset is, “I deserve to be served by others” rather than “I am here to serve others.”

It also produces an angry, bitter and depressed society. If I am entitled to certain things rather than see them as gifts to cherish I take them for granted and get angry or sad when I don’t get what I “rightfully deserve”

I don’t think this is the type of society that our founding fathers envisioned.

The truth is, that we are not entitled to anything. Not even life and definitely not a good life. Nowhere in the universe is it written that I am entitled to a good life. No one owes it to me. It’s all a gift.  

When I see everything as a gift, rather than something that I am entitled to,  I am able to fully appreciate and enjoy all that I do have and not get so angry about that which I don’t have.  The “gift mindset”, as opposed to the “entitled mindset”, is the gateway to happiness.  

Each morning, immediately upon awakening, we recite the Modeh Ani, thanking Hashem for granting us life. We recognize that we are not entitled to life, but rather it is a gift and should not be taken for granted, and therefore we thank Hashem. With this attitude everything we receive throughout the day; our health, family and livelihood is seen as a gift and becomes a source of tremendous joy. So many gifts in one day :)

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Benjy Silverman

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